So, you’ve received your wedding invitation – and now you need to know how to respond! Wedding invite etiquette may seem a little daunting but actually it’s quite simple if you follow a few basic guidelines. See how to reply to a wedding invitation here…

RSVP

You’ll need to reply to your wedding invitation as soon as you can. You’ll find a date by which you must follow – the wedding couple will have spent months planning the guestlist and will need to know exact numbers for catering and possible accommodation. Post your response well before the given date and let them know your position.

You may find that a formal invitation will include a separate RSVP card which may also be pre-stamped and addressed. A typical formal response card has then initial blank line starting with an M – this is the first letter of your title such as Mr, Mrs, Miss, followed by your name.

Then you can accept with pleasure or decline with regret – indicating the number – if it’s an invitation just for one write the number 1, or for you and your partner write the number 2. If one is attending and one not write the number 1 on both accepts and regrets lines respectively.

Then all you need to do is fill it in and send it back by return post.

Wedding invitation

RSVP without a Pre-printed Response

Not all invitations will have a pre-printed template where you can simply fill in the blanks. Depending on your relationship with the couple you can write a formal acceptance such as:

Wedding Acceptance Wording

Mr and Mrs Ben Payne
Accept with pleasure
the kind invitation of
Mr and Mrs Jones
For Saturday 18th April
At 2.00pm

Dear Julie and Richard
Ben and I are delighted to attend your wedding on 18th April 2020
Kind regards
Lee & Ben Payne

Don’t forget that if circumstances change and you can’t attend the wedding after you’ve said thanks for the invitation and accepted, you’ll need to call the hosts as soon as possible so that caterers can be notified and any last-minute adjustments made.

Wedding Regrets Wording

Being unable to attend may be sadly unavoidable but you need to let the couple know in advance. Cancelling at the last minute or simply not showing up would cause a great deal of distress – and could add unnecessary expense. You should keep the reply short and agreeable. For example:

Dear Julie and Richard
Thank you for the invite. We regret to inform you that we shall be unable to attend. We hope the day is as
special as you – we shall be thinking of you with much love.
Lee & Ben Payne

Mr and Mrs Ben Payne
regret that they will be unable to attend
the kind invitation of
Mr and Mrs Jones
for
Saturday 18th April

Wording of a wedding invitation

If more than one person has been invited but not everybody will be able to attend the following template can be used:

Mrs Lee Payne
accepts with pleasure
the kind invitation of
Mr and Mrs Jones
for Saturday 18th April
at 2.00pm
Mr Ben Payne
regrets that he will be unable to attend

How to respond to a wedding invitation where your children are invited is written in the same format:

Mr and Mrs Ben Payne
Annie and Holly
accept with pleasure
the kind invitation of
Mr and Mrs Jones
For Saturday 18th April

More Wedding Invite Etiquette Guide

Menus

Some wedding response cards also contain an attachment with menu choices below the attendance options. You’ll need to fill this in with your preferred meals. Make sure you do this for each guest attending as these numbers and selections will be used by the caterers.

Extras

Unless your invitation is addressed to your entire family or a plus-one you won’t be able to RSVP for any additional guests. And bear in mind that these invitations aren’t transferable – meaning if your plus-one can’t attend you can’t invite someone else to take their place. If you have a close relationship with the couple you may be able to work around any change in circumstances – if not RSVP for just one.

When replying to wedding invitations there’s a huge selection of gorgeous notecards to choose from with appropriated headers and space to write your response.